Going to Allume last year was good for me in a hundred thousand ways. It was my third year to attend this amazing conference where so many of my precious online friends have become the kind of in-the-flesh friends whose numbers I dial without thinking when something exciting happens or when I desperately need prayer.
I love what happens when women who share one heart for the Lord and one desire to make Him known gather together … the energy is palpable. I always think it’s a glimpse of what heaven will be. Lingering conversations and deep connections rooted in a shared love for the Lord.
But last year was also the year I realized my season of attending multiple conferences per year was over. My girl is in her last year of middle school. She is a cheerleader and she’s enjoying her second year in her school’s Show Choir. She’s taking Pre-Algebra {hold me} and her social life continues to blossom. All that added to my fervent desire to be intentional about her spiritual growth and a real awareness her days in our home are getting fewer quickly led me to the decision not to attend any conferences this year that required me to be away from home more than one night.
Many who will be attending Allume {and other conferences} will be in the same boat I was last year. I missed one of my girl’s Show Choir productions. In fact, I wrote about it during the live Five Minute Friday party and even shared my post with the group there.
How do we deal with being away from home when we know we’re missing moments with our families?
Here are a few ideas for managing the mommy guilt that can accompany our time away from home.
Stay connected.
Thank the Lord for phones and Skype and Facetime! You can still read bedtime stories and make sure the outfit for the dance look cute. Decide with your husband and your children how much interaction you will have while you’re gone … and then do what you’ve agreed! Set an alarm and be willing to leave even the best session at the event in order to listen to your first grader tell you about the spelling test. 🙂
Leave a piece of you behind.
Leave little notes for your family or make their favorite snacks for them to have while you are gone. Let the kids pick out one of your shirts to sleep in while you’re gone. Make a countdown for them to mark how many days you’ll be gone. Don’t leave out your older kids in this … they may be cool teenagers but they still love to know their momma is missing them.
Bring them a surprise from your trip.
Even just a postcard from the airport to show where you were will help your kids be sure you were thinking of them while you were gone.
Enjoy your time away!
Don’t let your joy be robbed by unnecessary feelings of guilt for being away. The time of connecting and growing and worshiping is absolutely okay! And the refreshing time you experience will be a blessing to your family as you come back home.
Here’s the bottom line: God is doing an amazing work through the Allume conference and community. And where God is working, the enemy is working harder. Go and be encouraged and challenged! And then come home to your family refreshed, inspired, and ready to love on them.
How do you deal with mommy guilt when you’re away from home?
Wishing I could give you all a hug in Greenville,